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Thursday, November 13, 2008

Work Annoyance

I'm sure this has come up before, but this week has been particularly hideous for me in this regard. It's one of those things that no one does consciously, and I'm sure there have been times I've done this to people either out of lack of confidence, lack of desire to talk to someone new, or just my general introversion. I can even explain why someone would do this; you don't want to waste your precious time on dealing with someone who may or may not be able to answer you. The downside to this attitude is that you might be turning down someone who knows better than the person you're looking for.

What I'm referring to here is using people as informational resources. I work in an area with Optimus Prime. We both do essentially the same thing -- or rather, we share a common responsibility with differing outlying responsibilities. Within this similar responsibility, however, he is always considered the preferencial person to ask questions of when someone has them. This is understandable. What hurts sometimes, though, is when he is not only preferred, but I am excluded completely and deliberately.

Here's what happened: a few days ago we were looking at a problem with one of our clients that had stumped us for a few weeks. We had seen an error message, assumed what it meant, and didn't know what to do about it. Well, on the day in question, I finally cracked open the log file to see if this message was telling us the truth or not, and I found to my surprise (shouldn't have been a surprise), the message was not giving us the whole story. It seemed to indicate a login error, but in fact, it was a connection issue and the login error came from the connection resetting, returning to the login screen, and the enter key being pressed as a sort of "leftover" action from the previous screen definition. This generated a login error that our scripts were not equipped to deal with.

Our response to this error was to just resume the task and it typically processed just fine, so what I did was add the error message to the code and upload it. It worked like a charm. Well, while I was keeping an eye on that client, someone else came over, glanced between us, and (as this person ALWAYS does) shifted into Prime's cube to ask him about this very same client and the very same issue I'd just fixed but was monitoring. Prime told him that I was just working on them. This person glanced over to me, but was unwilling to speak to me on it. He said the a contact from that client was on the line, so Prime said to transfer the caller to him.

Huh? That equates to taking credit for someone else's work. Not that I care in most cases if someone else talks to a client over something I did, but in context of everything else that transpired, it just seemed really, really weird.

Ok, so maybe I'm just whining, and if you feel that way, that's fine. But you have to also understand that part of the satisfaction of doing a job is feeling valued in that job. When you see all the time that your opinion (though asked for) is not valued, it's hurtful, and that situation just came off as completely de-valuing what I do. 

The next day, something similar happened. I had asked Prime about a particular piece of the system and rather than just answer the question, he launched into an explanation of how it worked. I didn't need that, and wondered why he thought I did. He's also going to be on vacation next and has repeatedly asked if I could handle it. Why not? I've handled it before. He's also given repeated advice on some best practices. Again, I can handle it.

This whole thing has caused me to read a lot into a lot of other stuff, and I need to let it go. It is my sincere hope that just typing it all out here will help me to get past it. I played Guitar Hero last night for an hour and a half trying to get over it. It was over an hour before I could play much of anything straight on it. I felt better when it was over, but I still needed a little vent on here...

Sunday, November 9, 2008

9 Reason You Should Date A Geek

I found this on AOL one evening, and since I can relate to it, I figured I had to post a link. I also posted the entire article just in case they ever take it down. It's found at this place on AOL.

Ladies: 9 Reasons You Should Date a Nerd
Filed under: Attraction & Chemistry, Love & Romance, Dating, For Women
Posted Sep 11th 2008 3:37PM
by eHarmony Advice

Ladies, is the reason you aren't getting very far in the dating world because you haven't let go of the girl you were in high school? We know it's a stereotype, but sometimes women pine after the rebellious cool guy, the one that mothers hate and girlfriends envy. While we're driving ourselves crazy to impress Mr. Cool, the undiscovered nerd is standing in the shadows waiting to be noticed.

You know who we're talking about, right? We're referring to that bespeckled guy that you overlooked so many years ago because he wasn't cool. Well, brace yourself for revenge of the nerds, because this soft-spoken loner is smart, sincere and will genuinely be nice to you. If you haven't given a second look to the guy that looks like your former Chemistry tutor, perhaps you should delve deeper into this untapped resource.

Maybe the comic book expert with the closetful of costumes for next month's convention is a little much. But those guys who walk the line between nerd and die-hard geek could use just a little luring out of their shell. Underneath all of those odd hobbies and quirky friends, these men can not only hold a conversation, but they also champion a woman with an education, a large vocabulary and a mind of her own.

If you have never dated a nerd, consider the following 9 reasons why you might just need a geek in your life.

1. He's Heartfelt Although sometimes awkward, geeks are usually well-meaning and sincere. He wants to get to know you and feel comfortable with a real lady. Surely, it is quite a difference from the lonely nights with Lara Croft from Tomb Raider, but a welcome change nonetheless.

2. He's a Smarty Pants Nerds usually are intelligent, can hold a good job and are overall self-sufficient. He's probably responsibly planned for and invested in his future well before any of us have started. Smart guys can also open your horizons and can offer a perspective or education about world news, politics or obscure movie trivia.

3. You'll get the Star Treatment Often overlooked, these guys can appreciate a woman when they get one. Likely to be a priority in his life, they show you off to their friends, call when they say they will and will most likely impress Mom and Dad. Okay, so maybe you will be number 2 or 3 after the computer games and geek trivia, but you won't be on a long list of ladies vying for some time with him.

4. He's Open to Suggestions You can offer tips on fashions, hairstyles or even music of present day. They realize that they could use the help when replacing the acid washed jeans or "spiked" hair from the days of yore and welcome their newfound hipness.

5. He's a Gentleman A far cry from the smarmy creep at the bar, nerds are more likely to debate your favorite Superman villain than only go after that "one thing." With little less relationship experience, his naïve fumbling with romantic advances come off as endearing and honest.

6. He's a Go-Go Gadget Guy Nerds tend to be more tech-savvy than the average layman, so whenever a frustrating situation happens with cache memory, deleting cookies or synchronizing the network, he can get those gadgets to behave.

7. He'll Make You Laugh With quirky interests and a matching sense of humor; nerds can share some interesting trivia or strange hobbies and while laughing at themselves, too. It's a welcome deviation from the "I'm too cool to laugh at myself" act.

8. He Keeps the Right Company Nerdy guys often have awkward geek friends. So instead of bad influences or disrespectful attitudes, your nerd man is hanging out with these guys playing Guitar Hero. A welcome reprieve from the raunchy "Guys Night Out," when who knows what could happen, these guys are spending time with the fellas discussing politics or network gaming. Plus, the buddies treat you nice when you come around, while your new man will be the hit in the group with such a hot gal on his arm.

9. You Can Be Yourself You don't have to put on a show for these guys by wearing 4 inch heels and making yourself up to look like a goddess. We bet they wouldn't mind your hair in a ponytail, the makeup-free glow, or your favorite jersey. You can be yourself around him and he won't be the jerk that works so hard to make you feel ugly. Like finding a diamond in the rough, your nerdy guy can be your own little treasure that no one has discovered yet. You will have to discover them, by the way. Nerdy ones are not the type to seek you out or make the first move, so you will have to be the brave one. But upon further examination, choosing a nerd may improve your chances of making a real connection.

Due to their neglected past, there are a bevy of nerdy gentlemen out there that never garnered a second look that are ready and willing to have a real relationship with someone that will give him a chance. So what if they are interested in geeky things? They make great companions because they stimulate the most vital organ: the brain.