Apparently, I'm Threatening

So this is something I never really think about because it strikes me as a little preposterous. However, I know how I can be sometimes, and I can kind of see it...kind of. What made me think of my coming off as a threatening presence was when I had to deal with something at Sassy Pants' school, and it was something I wasn't altogether happy about.

I don't want to detail the issue, but it involved my going into the same person a few times trying for their approval over something. I went in a total of four times over the course of a day, while being turned down each time. The final time I went in, the person apparently saw me coming and brought in the principal to sit in. I was turned down once more, and the principal said we were done for the day.

I told the Queen about the whole thing, and especially the end where the principal was called in, and she did note that I have a sort of intensity about me sometimes that some people might find threatening if they don't know me. This is especially intense when I am somewhat angry, but note that my being angry does not translate into shouting or name calling or even grumbled insults. In fact, I remain completely cordial, though I have had occasion to debate the issue (some say argue, but it's more that I state my case and try to debunk their side of it where an argument might come off as a gainsay disagreement as opposed to a civil conversation. i.e. "Yes, it is." "No, it isn't.").

In addition, I'm not exactly a big guy. Genetically, I have very, very broad shoulders (8 inch collarbones), and while I'm not "muscular", I have some decent muscle mass, and I'm not fat. I'm also only 5'9", so picture a average heighted guy with that sort of trapezoidal male figure where it tapers slightly down from shoulder to waist and that's me. I do have a bit of a smart mouth, and I do have a sort of unfortunate tendency to make one feel stupid without half trying (ok, I admit to doing it on purpose sometimes...very subtly. I have talked people into removing their phone batteries while they're talking on them just to see if they would. Some totally did.).

So, I suppose when it comes to being threatening, it is possible that I can come off that way, but I don't intend to. I also did not hear from that person again when we sent just Sassy Pants in to see her one more time the following day (had to work, you know). Perhaps she didn't want to deal with me again. I consider that a victory.